Abuse of men and male victims of domestic abuse is far more common that people realise. It is a myth to think that it only affects women or girls. Men often find it hard to speak out about it, worried about seeming weak or worry that they will be blamed or won’t be believed.
The most recent Crime Survey for England and Wales estimated that 143,000 males aged 16 to 59 years were victims of a sexual assault in the last year. The Crown Prosecution Service acknowledges around 415 of reported sexual offence victims were male, with the vast majority of incidents never even being reported to the police.
Is it different for men?
There are both similarities and differences. Some of the responses to violence from a partner are the same. Being abused by somebody you love and trust can be confusing and bewildering, and any victim whether male or female may wonder if it's their fault. It can be harder for men to cope with the emotional impact of domestic abuse.
Admitting to being abused is difficult for anybody. Sometimes men often don't have the social networks in place to easily tell a friend or family member.
It may not be easy to recognize domestic violence against men. Early in the relationship, similarly to women, a partner might seem attentive, generous and protective but later these incidents turn out to be controlling and frightening. Initially, the abuse might appear as isolated incidents. A partner might apologize and promise not to abuse again.
Our confidential helpline is available for male victims of domestic abuse and domestic violence across the UK as well as their friends, family, neighbours, work colleagues and employers.
We provide an information, support and signposting service to men suffering from domestic abuse from their current or former wife, partner (including same-sex partner) or husband.
Please call 01823 334244 to speak to us confidentially
Weekdays 10am to 4pm
Respect Men’s Advice Line
Our friendly Men’s Advice Line Advisors will believe you, offer you non-judgmental emotional support, practical advice and information.
free from landlines and mobile phones within the UK. Your call will not appear on itemised bills. You can also call free from BT pay phones.
Sat & Sun 10am-12pm & 4pm-6pm