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Do you think you are being stalked or harassed?

If you have reported to the police and do not feel satisfied with their response, do not despair. If you answer positively to these questions, please take this checklist with you when you speak with the police and/or other agencies.


  1. Are you very frightened?

  2. Is there previous domestic abuse or stalking/harassment history?

  3. Have they vandalised or destroyed your property?

  4. Have they turned up unannounced more than three times a week?

  5. Have they followed or loitered near your home or workplace?

  6. Have they made threats of a physical or sexual violence nature?

  7. Have they harassed or stalked any third party since the harassment began?

  8. Have they acted violently towards anyone else during the stalking incident?

  9. Have they engaged other people to help with their activities?

  10. Has the stalker had problems in the past year with drugs, alcohol or mental health?

  11. Is the stalker suicidal? Is there last resort thinking/finality?

  12. Have they ever been in trouble with the police or do they have a criminal history?


For further specialist advice and support please call:


Paladin, the National Stalking Advocacy Service 020 3866 4107

What to do if you are being stalked or harassed
  • Keep a diary of all incidents - Include dates, times, what occurred, any witnesses to what occurred etc.

  • If you report any incidents to the Police - Keep dates, times, names of person you spoke to and what was said and what action you were told would be taken.

  • Receiving silent or threatening phone calls? - Contact BT Malicious Callers Bureau. Again, keep dates and times of calls.

  • Receiving malicious calls? - Try not to react, place the phone off the receiver for a few minutes and then replace the receiver without saying anything. Dial 1471 to see if a number has been left. (Don't worry if number is withheld as BT/Police will be able to trace numbers). Don’t forget to record the date and time of the call and the message. Report the calls to the Police as they will work with BT to trace who is making these calls to you.

  • Malicious text messages - Always keep the text message and report this to the Police and your mobile phone network provider.

  • While out and about - Try to avoid going out alone. Keep to busy public places whenever possible.

  • Protection? - Get a personal alarm and carry that with you .Try to keep your mobile phone with you at all times.

  • Being followed?- If you think you are being followed make for a shop to get help. Don’t forget the ‘Ask Ani’ scheme if you are near a chemist or ‘Ask for Angela’ scheme if you are near a pub.  This will give you the opportunity to call for help in private within the shop. If you are not near a shop then knock on a house and ask the householder to contact the Police.

  • If a car is following you - If you notice cars following you or are outside your house then always take a note of the make, model, colour and registration, date, time etc. and report this to the Police, particularly if you keep seeing the same car.

  • Crime Prevention - Contact the local Police and ask for the Crime Reduction Officer to check your house out to see whether there are ways in which it needs to be made safer - stronger locks, window locks, security lighting at back and front etc. 

  • Helplines and Counsellors - You may find it useful and helpful to contact a helpline or even a counsellor.  They will be able to give you regular emotional support at this time. If possible, try to have a network of friends and family to support you through this time.

  • Living life - Try not to allow what is happening dominate your life and thoughts. Try and keep to your regular routine, and to do things you enjoy doing and spending time with friends.


You’re not wrong!

Don't allow the harassment and/or stalking to make you think there is anything wrong with you. The person who is doing this to you is disturbed and can be doing it for all sorts of reasons.  This could be jealousy, someone who you may have once known and broken contact with, an ex-lover, someone who has become fixated with you, you may not have met them or known them personally, there can be many reasons. 


REMEMBER! The problem is with the person doing the stalking/harassment and not YOU.

6 Golden Rules If You Are Being Stalked
  • R - report it to police. Stalking is a crime. Tell people what's happening to you.

  • E - evidence collection. Save and retain all evidence.

  • P - practical advice from experts like Paladin and the National Stalking Helpline.

  • O - overview of what's going on. Keep a diary with the time, date, stamp of the behaviour.

  • R - risk screening questions, S-DASH questions.

  • T - Trust your instinct.

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