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If someone confides in you that they’re suffering domestic abuse:


  • listen, but be careful not to blame them

  • acknowledge it takes strength to talk to someone about experiencing abuse

  • give them time to talk.  Don’t push them to talk if they don’t want to, they may not be ready

  • acknowledge they’re in a frightening and difficult situation

  • tell them nobody deserves to be threatened or beaten, despite what the abuser has said

  • support them as a friend – encourage them to express their feelings, but allow them to make their own decisions

  • don’t tell them to leave the relationship if they’re not ready – that’s their decision

  • ask if they have suffered physical harm – if so, offer to go with them to a hospital or GP

  • help them report the assault to the police if they choose to

  • be ready to provide information on organisations that offer help for people experiencing domestic abuse

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